Custody at Christmas

The holiday season is a time of joy, celebration, and meaningful family gatherings.  For parents navigating custody, however, it can be a period of heightened stress and challenges.  In this post, we will explore not only practical strategies but also emotional support and considerations to create a fulfilling holiday experience for both parents and children.

Encourage New Traditions

• Emphasize the opportunity to create new traditions specific to the times when the children are with each parent. This not only adds excitement but also allows the children to look forward to unique experiences with each household.

Utilize Technology

• In today's digital age, technology can help bridge the distance during the holidays.  Take advantage of video calls or virtual activities so that the children feel connected with the parent they are not physically with.

Co-Parent Well

• Be mindful of the importance of fostering a supportive co-parenting relationship. Do your best to avoid negative conversations or conflicts in front of the children, as it could dampen their holiday spirit.

Stay Flexible

• Sometimes, the holiday dates might not perfectly align with custody schedules.  Be flexible when it comes to celebrating the holidays on alternative days if needed, ensuring that the focus remains on the quality of time spent together rather than specific dates.

Practice Self-Care

• Remember to prioritize self-care during this emotionally charged time frame.  Actively seek support from friends, family, or professionals if you find yourself overwhelmed by the challenges of co-parenting during the holidays.

Honor Traditions

• While introducing new traditions is exciting, respecting existing family traditions is equally important.  Continue to practice any traditions that hold significance for your children, regardless of which household they are in.

Plan Ahead

• Be prepared for whatever the holiday season may bring and involve your children in planning activities or preparing for the holiday festivities.  This inclusivity helps the children feel valued and emotionally invested in the celebrations.

Follow the Order

• The best approach is always to adhere to any legal agreements or court-ordered schedules during the holidays.  This ensures a sense of security and stability for both the children and co-parents.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!